This episode is about who we are, why we are passionate about our imperfect (parenting) podcast and being imperfect parents and what you can expect from being a part of our IP Parent community.
•Fantastic Home page photo and episode 001 photo by Moni Mracek a dear friend and talented MOMtographer, here in Prague.
Ariel Andersson and Mats Andersson
Final Cuts, and we launch….
We started the podcast by mutually Introducing each other.
Who is Mats?
Mats has 3 kids and 3 different ways he has experienced growing up: His own childhood, French style from other 2 older kids, and the way we are raising Ella.
He grew up in 70s/80s, in Stockholm, Sweden with mom (Margareta), Dad (Bengt) and Sister (Lena).
Ella is intuitive and strong minded. She is who she is.
Who is Ariel?
Ariel is an only child of Steve and Diana. Though over time a couple of long distance step brothers be different marriages/partnerships.
We hope to help to grow who Ella is meant to be, not what we think she “should” be.
Our good friends Bonnie and Josef did that with their daughter, Anna, and it inspired us.
After French style, Mats seems surprised that Ariel rarely yells at Ella.
She has real conversations with her, as well, often with surprising result.
Ariel’s mom is spiritual, but didn’t necessarily encourage Ariel’s intuition, until later.
Dad did more, after their relationship grew in teen years. Maybe also easier from a distance.
Ariel grew up in Northern California, USA. Divorced parents. Spiritual, not religious.
We are who we are.
Ariel worked both as teacher and in corporate.
Mats grew up in socialist Sweden.
Mats’ mom also spiritual.
Overall, Mats believes that whoever has the strongest beliefs tends to win out.
French bourgeois society. It’s all about how you are supposed to be.
Mats believes Ariel now wins because she has beliefs and he doesn’t.
(That said, Mats definitely has his own loose parenting style which is in full effect, daily.)
Ariel doesn’t want Ella to over watch tv and low electronics use. However, Ella watching, now in order to record podcast, so. Breaking her own rules.
Ariel likes the idea of Swedish Pippi and her value system and that she helped Ella keep up her Swedish before her dad lost his job.
How did IP Parenting begin?
Ariel’s ideas with Imperfect parenting, or as we like to say,
“IP parents” or “Imperfect Parents”, is to shift judgement (and connect us around the world).
Reality is, We judge.
Different values will make this a fact.
Ariel 1st noticed this during bonus mom days, realizing that no matter what she did, it was never enough.
As now a biological mom.. now there is the feeling of so much pressure. Of what we “should” or are supposed to do. So many parents on the playground comparing, pushing asking if our kid is in school or not and on and on.
Ariel simply had to write about it! Thats when this topic came through, so strongly.
Talking together, important to have all sides.
What to expect as we go forward?
- Thoughts and realities from our daily life in a place we didn’t grow up (Prague, Czechia).
- Expat life and different values and ideas about what is right.
- Even if not an expat, we have different core values all around us. No one is identical. Judgement is just there as we have different perspective, so we hope to share varied stories.
- Idea here is to create more understanding between us all.
- A place to be validated and relax into not being alone in the things that come up.
- Interviews with people from around the world.
- Solo days with only one of us.
- Spiritual moments. Sharing rituals of our lives.
- Right and wring parenting (ever changing).
- Not just woo woo ideas.
- Our family pasts childhood.
The hopes and dreams:
We will talk about Ariel’s single mom, who brought nature etc and whose style was more permissive parenting
Mats’ family’s different styles.
The reality of doing our best with the kids around.
Some of us end up on dark paths, we just do our best.
There are all kids of parents around us: Straight, gay, single moms, single dads, grandparents, guardians, bonus, step, adopted, 2 moms, 2 dads and more.
We just do our best to be aware, reflect back and try to be better and softer with ourselves. In the end, its all about perspective.
Sweden, Czech republic, California and where we travel in the world, you will hear from us.
Things change, we just do our best.
Occasionally there will be explicit language, yet we will warn you.
We hope to create a community, where we have good intentions and are open-minded and kind.
We will share the good, the bad, the beautiful, the creative and the ugly.
We commit to every week for 9 weeks, then at least the 1St and 3rd week of every month.
Are you an IP Parent?